Ok friends...who out there has a dad ? (Whether they are here on the planet or not)?
Dec 8 was the anniversary of my Dad’s last breath on this earth. I'm not going to lie...this is a particularly difficult year for me. During the course of his struggle with prostate cancer he often mentioned that his goal was to be at my son Reilly's high school graduation. Well, this is the year.
I still feel my Dad's love and support. I often shed tears during meditation. Lately gratitude for our connection with our ancestors has really drawn my focus, feeling love and gratitude FOR our dads in particular BUT such a huge wave of gratitude coursed through me in the other direction in one of my recent sessions. I cried as I felt his gratitude for ME😥...ok truth, I’m crying now just typing this.
In the days before his passing I could feel him asking me to take care of my mom. Message received ❤️ I love you Dad.
During his life he told me many times that he felt like I was supposed to write a book. I'd respond "what would I write about?" Here I am now, does a blog count? I feel him lending me courage as tears stream down my face while I type.
I have been scattering my thoughts across so many platforms not knowing who will resonate with my energy, hoping that my perspective helps elevate those who come in contact with my content. It is my intention to more regularly share energy onto this blog. Thank YOU so much for coming along for the journey, full range Maria. Making myself vulnerable, recording my unfolding for ME to read later. Sometimes in workshops or when I'm recording the podcast I realize that the words I'm uttering are actually meant for me. Perhaps I am the intended soul that needs some elevation in a particular moment, perhaps these words on this screen are meant for me...but alas here they are for your heart as well.
My Dad, my Mom, my Brothers —thank you for helping me laugh even through the tough times. Thank you for laughing with me even when I’m a little out of left field.
My friends, both near and far...thank you for your private messages of encouragement, for your love and support even while you read and send me love.
Covid-I can’t imagine what my dad would think right now. I feel for the many losing loved ones because of this horrific virus. Cherish every moment!
If you have a chance, tell your dad you love him today.
All my love, Maria
Good things and well, sometimes not so good things, travel down through the generations.
I'm missing my Dad but geez this photo reminds me of the excellent parenting skills of the 60's. Talk about starting second hand smoke early right?
I chose NOT to be a smoker. That table I’m reaching for in this photo...I just realized I have it in my living room right now.
It’s a choice what you want to nourish and hold on to. My dad chose to quit smoking years after this photo was taken. Sometimes we watch our elders learn and evolve during our lifetime and sometimes we don’t but we always have a choice how WE will behave.
The good choices you make today will make you stronger tomorrow.
I drafted this article several months ago....surprisingly with the increase in the number of deaths in the world some still are resistant to the idea so I'm publishing anyway.
It is a stressful time to put it mildly. The best thing we can do is take care of ourselves and be compassionate for those around us...while maintaining our distance if they choose not to participate in trying to help slow the virus spread.
Please be safe out there!
No one likes being told what to do.
We all may have different interpretations of the rules.
I went biking the other day - my dog needs to run so you may have seen me around. I wore a makeshift mask a couple of days ago. Hot, sweaty, itchy ...but felt like I was making a good effort to help others be safe in case I have it.
No one else on the streets had one on. I felt a little foolish. Yesterday I rode my bike and decided the rule must not apply because I’m
Not near anyone. About a third of people I saw walking had masks. 🤔 it’s ok just making an observation.
But yesterday we sent our 17 year old to Albertsons. With mask of course so HE doesn’t give it to anyone just in case. We sanitized items before we brought them inside, he changed clothes in the garage. Then we slacked off...he didn’t shower and wash his hair.
Dinner time. It comes up in conversation that only about a third of people in the market had masks on. We have an ongoing tAlk with him normally -Please DONT touch your hair at dinner table.
It takes on a whole new meaning now.
I write this as a reminder please wear the masks so my son doesn’t bring it into our house.
I write as a reminder to myself to Be more careful.
We tell the kids—-no matter what we do we may still get it...there will be NO thought “oh we wasted our efforts” in our house BUT we have faith we will ward it off as long as possible so we don’t burden others or get THEM infected.
Yesterday we learned of a 52 year old business acquaintance that died from the virus. We are a little on edge. My brother and his entire family of 4 all currently have it....I could go on but we all have our stories.
Please be safe! 🙏🏻
The ebb and flow of water, moving or frozen, I encourage you to take some time to evaluate YOUR energy levels. We are all reflections of each other 💥
Raising mental health awareness is a passion of mine. Helping others become stronger - raising the vibration.
Please feel free to share any of my content AND if you have something YOU are passionate about perhaps I can help - get in touch.
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I share a full range of content, of my own personality out on social media in the hopes of enriching the lives of those who come in contact with my energy. Recently I was asked to appear on a local Los Angeles radio station. Here are some of my reflections that I shared on the morning of the show.
I appreciate you for trusting me with some of your time. Enjoy your day and tell someone you love them today!
Years ago I had a boyfriend that would say things like "I don't need to go see the sunset I've seen it a ton of times". He definitely had a "been there done that" attitude about life can you tell? Today, I'm fairly certain that same guy would comment "I don't do meditation, I tried it and it doesn't work for me". If I had a conversation with him today I would ask - What is the "it" and what is your definition of "work for me"?
Each day provides a new angle on the sun, each day provides a new perspective on life. No two sunsets are exactly alike, no two moments are identical. Most of us have learned that experiences can not be replicated EXACTLY, no matter how hard we may try. When we try to replicate an experience, the result can be for the better or for the worse. It is usually worth the gamble to try for improvement if something did not work out so well the first time.
How many types of meditation are there? I'm not sure an exact number can be given. All over the world people are practicing meditations they have learned from prior generations or current teachers and at the same time others are developing new and innovative ways of meditating. Just like life - the diversity is astounding. Change and growth are ongoing.
What is it that you want from meditation? How do you determine if it "works for you"? Peace, relaxation, relief of anxiety, connection with prior lives, igniting libido, removing false beliefs, connecting with departed loved ones - these are some of the goals people may have in mind when they begin to meditate. No matter our initial intention, most often we can be surprised by the gifts of insight we receive. Usually thoughts will come to us that we may not have previously considered.
I often advise students to remove all preconceived ideas about what meditation is and ask that they refrain from having any expectations. We don't want to set ourselves up for disappointment, that very disappointment may in fact serve as a block for deeper meaning. In fact, for deeper meditations we do a little pre-meditation first to clear our slate as much as possible (I'll talk about this more another time).
In this article, I'd like to outline some of the types of meditation that I offer. I hope that my descriptions will open your mind to new possibilities. I hope that perhaps you will consider trying some of these styles in your life at some point.
Please feel free to comment on this article or get in touch through any of the social media platforms that STRONG BODY STRONG SOUL can be found.
I invite you to watch me describe these meditations if you are curious
Thank you so very much for stopping by this page. Have a beautiful day and please stay open to new perspectives, new views of the sun and new views on life.
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Yes, it has been awhile since I've posted and since it's a Wednesday right now (well I hope you enjoy this article even if it isn't a Wedsneday) I'm just giving you a heads up I'm kind of silly on Wednesdays. In fact, on the STRONG BODY STRONG SOUL show (the podcast that I host) it's officially called Wacky Wednesday. Here we go...
Last night I was playing a funny song, a fun gift of a message from a listener of the Strong Body Strong Soul podcast. One of my daughter’s friends was in the car, she was so excited about this cool freestyle beat from my friend PDE in Alaska. She loved it!
Usually, I'm sharing about inspirational sometimes spiritual content but on occasion I get a little silly. That’s right!!! Check out some of the Strong Body Strong Soul show. I’m NOT a vegan but I love them anyway (especially my friend at the end of this article).
No! this isn’t my Eco Vegan Activist friend holding the sign but I’m sure she’ll love it, don’t be a chicken and just admit you are laughing…….let me get back to those teens…my daughter’s friend (14 years old) wants to find my show and listen on Applepodcasts. She thinks I’m hilarious!!! 🥰
I warned her that my episodes are NOT always funny but I shared how to subscribe anyway.
While we are talking, the lyrics play on 💃🎼“…talking ‘bout that third eye, 👁 you know all about that, uh uh uh” 🎹🎼🎧🎤
The girl is commenting that I should be in acting, I’m so real and funny. Wow cool guys like PDE are creating freestyle songs like this for me? How cool is that!! My ego is bursting… 🥰
The Strong Body Strong Soul podcast show is available on ALL devices (Spotify, Spreaker, ApplePodcasts on iPhones, Googleplaymusic on Android devices and so many more). I’m the funniest coolest mom around, so many people are listening around the world, my energy is helping so many💃.
My daughter is ROLLING her eyes the whole time 🤣🤣🤣!!!!
Sometimes those closest to us don’t see or hear what we are talking about because they are so used to us being a certain way or yes let’s face it — how embarrassing to have such a funny mom.
My poor kids !!! 🤣☮️🥰🙏🏻🤦♀️
The other day when I interviewed Miyoko Rifkin the same thing. We laughed! Her kids don’t want to hear what she’s saying.
There goes mom 🙀🤦🏻♂️ talking about sex again. 🤣
Miyoko is a long time mom friend, former stripper, Playboy Radio host, Intimacy Expert, foodie, spiritual practitioner etc .
Don’t worry the interview that will be released soon is PG13 (I try to keep the teen audience in mind 😜). One of the insights from that conversation that I love the most…
Talk about sex as often as you can, NOT just during “the talk”.
Don’t be a chicken 🐔🤣
If you are interested in the YouTube video of this interview here's a sneak peak https://youtu.be/8LBOPca7qWs
When I interviewed Conrad Ercolono about the energy of martial arts he was so inspiring (as always).
We talked about bullying, working with special needs and other amazing subjects but his advice to parents — keep talking, even if it seems they aren’t listening it IS sinking in.
Master Ercolono and I also talked about the reality that kids sometimes need to hear information from a source other than their parents. A different perspective, a different voice, a different energy.
Letting go of ego…so important, so challenging. If curious here is that interview on YouTube https://youtu.be/VMSEQfMEYL8
Be prudent who you allow your kids to interact with, trust they will figure it out and they know you have their back when they return.
also let go and allow your kids to evolve in their own way. You won’t be able to control all of the influences they will be exposed to throughout their lives. Seems a no brainer but many parents forget this.
Prepare kids to handle the real world-letting go so they CAN grow is essential.
Don’t be a chicken 🐔🤣
That being said — if your kid listens to my podcast show, follows me on Instagram or YouTube or is driving in my car — please forgive me if they get some info that you may not have discussed with them first.
Don’t be a chicken 🐔🤣
I remember one time a friend picked up her child from my house. Later she commented “oh great, now they are asking me about God” 🤦♀️.
I hope some of what I talk about DOES help them ask you questions. That’s the point!
Recently in carpool I was telling the kids about Greta Thunberg (16 year old Nobel Peace Prize nominee from Sweden). Everyone doesn't necessarily know who she is, but let's face it, the more we talk about her and what she's talking about the clear we become in our own beliefs.
Whether you feel vegan activism is ridiculous or you are in the streets in your city marching to raise awareness about climate change-thanks for having an open mind! Compassion, inclusion, diversity — let’s help make the world a better place.
Please feel free to watch the latest interview with Paige Parsons Roache. “Eco Vegan Activism-What’s That?” on Youtube and soon to be on the podcast.
Environmental and Vegan Activists collaborating in a powerful way-it’s happening!
Awareness is key. If you are a parent it’s wise to prepare — you never know if your child is going to come home asking about veganism, birth control, bullying or any variety of topics.
Don’t be a chicken 🐔
It’s also key to be aware that sometimes the truth can spring forth from surprising sources. Don’t discount the ideas of that 16 year old from Sweden, don’t discount the value of ideas coming through people you may have known your whole life.
Maybe your mom was right — even though she’s so embarrassingly funny perhaps what she’s saying makes sense. Perhaps it’s ok to allow myself to fully embrace who I am.
I am not perfect, I am me WITH all my ranges. No one else’s ranges.
MY RANGES, free range ME!
Don’t be a chicken 🐔
Wanna hear the awesome freestyle I was playing in the car? Tune in to today’s podcast episode 🎧👉🏼 https://anchor.fm/maria-humphreys/episodes/Sad--Animals-in-the-Bedroom-e44jla
Today I am not afraid to indulge in all of the different aspects that the buffet of life has to offer me.
I teach my kids so often to choose a variety of food, a variety of colors and a variety of textures on their plates.
A variety in ways of THINKING is essential as well BUT let's get back to the food.
Some of the best times in my life when I have lost the most weight or felt the most healthy have been when I have varied my diet. Whether I was mixing together Weight Watcher's, Atkin's or the South Beach Diet--I picked and chose what worked for MY body. I needed to trust my own physiology. Just like everyone, I am completely unique.
In life everyone is special and unique. As much as there may be dieting and nutrition gurus out there, I am the best guru for my own body. My health, my body will guide me.
If I don't feel good, I will examine how to adjust my diet.
The same is true with what I consume in politics, religion and in community. I need the variety of everyone's different perspectives. It helps me grow to expose myself to things that I may not have tried before, things that I may have considered ICKY in my past.
It's so important to grow and mature and admit that not only do you need to eat your vegetables but they actually may not be as bad you thought. Those thoughts that you may have considered CRAZY in the past may actually have some merit.
Just because some ideas may be coming from someone we don't like doesn't mean we shouldn't listen, maybe we shouldn't so easily dismiss alternate ways of thinking. Maybe we should really examine whether their ideas may actually help us and the community around us.
Diversity, variety, compassion, authenticity, honesty...in what you eat, in what you think, in what you ALLOW into your life.
Grow, by admitting that Variety is necessary.
No matter how out of focus life around you may seem...you have the power to center and choose where you want to aim your intentions. Your energy can sometimes be scattered to far too many worries. You may feel depleted, overloaded, incapable of keeping up with all that life is asking of you. Well, that is the way I am feeling right now.
Talk about scattered - I just realized that it has been over a year since I posted on this website.
Hello! Here I am...last night was another lunar eclipse - it is now January 2019. I wrote the words below a few months ago but did not finish and post.....here you go...
It is the beginning of August right now. We just experienced a lunar eclipse, mercury is in retrograde, the planets are causing energy to pull us in odd directions. I am not going to evaluate the planetary shifts that are happening here. Sometimes it really doesn't matter the cause of our unease. Well, it helps a little to know there is an external reason BUT mostly it helps to know that I'm NOT the only one experiencing fluctuations in energy.
It is now January - If you are interested in learning about my tool, my saving grace, my go to in times of imbalance please come back for a future more detailed article soon. I will share details of the Chakra Dyana meditation that I teach in local workshops. In this new year I plan to provide more helpful content here for you.
I will also share my perspective on how organized religion can still have great value. Soon we will be in the Easter Season. Feel free to review the prior posts on this blog for insights on religion and spirituality.
Truth never expires but we grow and change enveloped in our common human experience - no matter your religious traditions, color of your skin, location on the planet or financial background - we are all connected!! Compassion, diversity, respect - leaving a reflection of beauty wherever we go.
For now - in this New Year of 2019 please know you are not alone!!
Everything you consume is a part of who you are! I hope that what I am putting out here on social media will help elevate those that come into contact with my content.
I hope you enjoy one of my newest videos that I'm including here for you. Please feel free to subscribe, comment and share if you enjoy the channel. As is the case on all of my content, I am sharing full range - watch out for the titles and I hope you enjoy the journey watching my technological skills improve.
What have I been busy doing in the last year? Check Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Medium, LinkedIN and my audio show STRONG BODY STRONG SOUL.
Search for STRONG BODY STRONG SOUL on whichever platform you enjoy the most. Sometimes I'm sharing meditation, motivation, sometimes interviews about meditation. Sometimes I'm funny and sometimes I'm profound - always with the intention of raising the vibration of peace and joy in this world.
I love encouraging people to keep their energy flowing so that they can maintain the connection with their core - whether that is in a spiritual/emotional sense or a personal training sense.
I love using my voice to resonate with people all over the globe and I love being able to train clients via computer all over the globe as well - in either capacity - I am here for YOU!
I love you! Thank you for stopping by this site. I'm looking forward to sharing more here soon.
What's your idea of the difference between guilt and shame?
Here are some of my thoughts:
😳guilt is an act you get caught for. You are forced to say sorry, go to jail, peers see you and point fingers. "You should be ashamed of yourself" -aha but are you? No one knows but you.
😌Shame is what you feel regardless of whether anyone knows about it or not - you know it's bad and you carry it with you, self hatred and judgment can erupt.
I've posted this photo to illustrate my point. This food could feed a small family. These are the remnants of our group the other day AFTER we were done. We couldn't take it with us so it went in the trash.
We were guilty of taking too much food (it was a buffet) we looked at eachother sheepishly and left. We were all equally guilty. But I feel ashamed of this and hope to plan better in the future. Some people never get to that shame - they are guilty but move on with no remorse. I certainly am not perfect but in this instance I feel this point so clearly.
I think perhaps we need shame to force us to be better. I'm not talking about Shame that one person does to another (shaming a child in front of friends) but I am talking about that subtle shift of awareness that yes you wasted food, time, money or love and you feel bad about it in order to be better next time.
How do you get rid of shame? Awareness then forgiveness and improvement
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by all the things that need to get done? Do you lose sleep in the middle of the night thinking about what you forgot to do or worried about what is going to happen the next day? How are you going to squeeze it all in? Do you have a hard time NOT thinking while you are trying to meditate? Or actually not being able to find time to meditate or slow down at all because you have way too many things to do?
I think most of us would answer "YES" to many of these questions. There are a zillion things floating around in our heads...so many choices...so many unknowns.
One of my favorite things about Chakra Dyana Meditation is that we use a very simple mantra. We use a word that we all focus on at the same time. When we use our voice to focus on the one sound that we are making it forces our mind to tune in to that one thing to the exclusion of all others. That is the point. Thoughts will tend to come through while we are meditating but instead of trying to STOP these thoughts from coming I suggest we actually allow them to come without engagement.
Do not struggle to stop them because the very act of trying to stop them from coming will distract you more than the thoughts themselves.
If you think ABOUT the thoughts you may have an inner dialogue which may look like this:
"I will not think about other things during meditation. I will clear my mind"
"Oh no! here comes that thought again"
"Why am I thinking about that again?"
"I will not think about that any more"
"Here comes that thought again"
"Why can't I stop thinking about that?"
"Is anyone else thinking about other things?"
"What did she say?"
"Am I doing it right?"
"There is that thought again"
"I won't think this much next time"
"I will try harder next time...it didn't work"
May I suggest an alternative? What if when a thought comes you practice WATCHING the thought go by? Do not engage with the thought. Do not analyze what the thought is doing there or what you can do to prevent it. Let it be. Let it float by. The thought has nothing to do with your meditation. It has nothing to do with the time you have gifted to yourself for peace, calm and connection that you desire.
The more you step back and let the thoughts wash over you and leave without engagement the less they will come to you. Your mind will get used to trusting that you will get back to those thoughts later - when you are ready. They have no place in the time that you have set aside for yourself. They will leave if not entertained. Those thoughts will get bored and learn their lesson - there is no place for them in your meditation time. Do not worry if they come to you, pay them no mind - give them no part of your attention.
Once you are able to grasp this idea perhaps meditation will be easier for you. Perhaps instead of struggling to clear your mind and keep "trying" to meditate, you will actually be able to clear your mind and open to the wholeness that you seek. Perhaps your connection will be so strong that you will not need to struggle to find the time to keep "trying" to meditate and you actually will meditate.
The goal of meditation is to allow your mind to be still. You are not looking for anything....there is no voice to be heard, colors to be seen, vision to be felt...if these things happen, so be it, but if you "try" to get to any of these things more thoughts may come in order to distract you.
Meditation gives you a brief reprieve from engaging with your thoughts so that you can come out revitalized and ready to handle your thoughts in a productive way. That is the goal. Give yourself a break so you can tackle those thoughts when you are ready. Your ability to stay clear will become easier with practice and the stronger your connection with your own truth will be, this peace and connection will last even longer between meditations. It's a beautiful benefit - the deeper the meditation perhaps the less frequent you will need to do it. How efficient is that?